Hi everyone! Hope your day is going well! I wanted to come on here today because I have some time in between classes. I was thinking about something that I am so proud of myself for getting better at because honestly, it wasn't easy. That this is setting appropriate boundaries for myself and what I talk about with others or hear about. Boundaries can come up in awkward ways because sometimes it's hard to ask someone to change the topic because it is triggering to you but once you get used to it, it gets easier. Triggering topics for me are things like counting calories, sugar counts, talking about treating yourself in a negative way, working out to burn calories, etc. As you can see, a lot of things trigger me just because I have had problems with those things for as long as I can remember. But it's not like in general I just hear a random person talking about that and I tell them to stop, it's more between my close friends. If I hear people I am not close to talk about it, I just walk away or remove myself from the situation because hearing them talk about it does nothing but upset me. But if it is one of my close friends, and they are just talking about it to have a conversation, I simply just as them if we can talk about something else. Sometimes there are times when I need to listen to them because they are going through it and want to be heard, and obviously, I listen, I just prefer to not talk about it.
Setting boundaries can be about anything that triggers you, not just calories. It could be able grades, eating habits, religion, etc. Setting boundaries is a mature way of taking care of your mind and your heart to prevent you from getting hurt or upset by a situation. It is not selfish to care about your feelings or mental health, and realizing that is such a big step in emotional maturity.
I didn't proofread this because it is very loud and I can't focus so if this is all over the place, like they all are, I am so sorry:)
Have a good day!
Kate
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